Thank you thank you!! He is HERE and it went fine — we flowed and got through it (and I definitely didn’t need candles or whale music or a 10-point birth plan 😂).
I'm seven years into winging it through motherhood; no regrets thus far.
The newborn phase feels like the most expansive, impactful stage where every decision you make has endless reverberations. And while the first year IS precious and important, in my experience kids just kinda...turn out the way they were always going to turn out. Breastmilk or formula, nanny or daycare, neutral nursery or Peppa Pig hellscape...it ultimately doesn't matter, which is terrifying and liberating all at once.
I love the rawness here. I'm getting ready to start my family (a few years later than you did...which I get LOTS of comments about) and I'm so so thankful I'm doing so in an age and era when women are BEING FREAKING HONEST. So thank you for that xx
I remember meeting the midwife at my clinic appointments and each time she would ask me a string of questions like a quiz, and berate me when she didn’t get the answer she wanted! She kept trying to make me buy this contraption that you basically use to practice pushing…emm no thanks 🤣. I showed it to my mum who has had 6 children naturally and she was horrified. Now maybe it has helped some women! But honestly, the pushing of this stuff is insane. I kept telling her I couldn’t justify spending the money on it, and you know what? I gave birth naturally to my daughter and unsurprisingly my body knew how to push 🤪. Best of luck to you!
I concur concur concur! Yes to all of this. Giving birth is part of nature….. science can intervene if it needs to otherwise you do you when you decide and go with the flow. I’m no earth mother believe me but I managed to see through the ‘extra’ bits needed physically emotionally or otherwise and also the perceived extra bits needed. You just need you. Perhaps it was because I was a geriatric mum ( I bet it was a man who coined that 🤷🏻♀️) who had lived a life and had a life that I was chilled about it all. I had 2x emergency c sections within 15 months and even as I was prepped second time I asked them to just check in case labour had naturally started.
I couldn’t tell you the music that was playing in theatre or the surgeon’s name …..I didn’t want lots of baby clothes as I sad the baby will be in a baby grow or just a nappy for the first six months. Apparently it was terrible to even think this…. it didn’t work out like that!!! I hadn’t planned the first outfit home item either…….
Enjoy what will be in a unique experience. Still winging it … have never had a 12 and 13 at this age and stage before. Periodically my husband and I will look at each other and say… we’ve managed to keep two humans alive!! We’ve done well!!
I’m not a mom but from reading this post (which I loved btw) I’m sure you’re going to be an amazing one, everyone’s making it up as they along and I’m glad someone is voicing it!
I absolutely AB. SOLUTELY love this post. Im not a mom myself but Ive been helping moms with their kids and house tasks for over two decades. And Ive witnessed enough mom guilt or moms being shamed to choke a horse. I wanna stand in front of moms like a club bouncer saying " you've got an unsolicited opinion? Go thru me. And also bugger off". Every mom Ive worked for has had a different approach, perspective, personality and experience and its been a joy and honor to behold. I moved a few times so Ive had to keep up with some of the families via social media-- some of my earliest gigs are now adults having their own kids!!! And everything I hear from their parents, relatives or even the comments section of Facebook tells me they are happy delightful human beings!! And it happened with each mom bringing her unique self and care to their sphere! Her whole heart!
So yeah-- do your rhythms and choices and flow in the manner that matches your baby and your instincts and your life season. You'll know when you wanna hear outside opinions or advice and when you wanna roll how you wanna roll!! You're speaking about your deep love for him so he's already got THE most important aspect going for him!! You're gonna be great! 👊🏼👊🏼
Omg this was literally me. Sending you poz vibes and flow for however it goes! You’ll be great ❤️
Thank you thank you!! He is HERE and it went fine — we flowed and got through it (and I definitely didn’t need candles or whale music or a 10-point birth plan 😂).
Ahhh huge congratulations to you ✨
I'm seven years into winging it through motherhood; no regrets thus far.
The newborn phase feels like the most expansive, impactful stage where every decision you make has endless reverberations. And while the first year IS precious and important, in my experience kids just kinda...turn out the way they were always going to turn out. Breastmilk or formula, nanny or daycare, neutral nursery or Peppa Pig hellscape...it ultimately doesn't matter, which is terrifying and liberating all at once.
I love the rawness here. I'm getting ready to start my family (a few years later than you did...which I get LOTS of comments about) and I'm so so thankful I'm doing so in an age and era when women are BEING FREAKING HONEST. So thank you for that xx
This is the most relatable thing I've read this year. All the best when the time comes!
I remember meeting the midwife at my clinic appointments and each time she would ask me a string of questions like a quiz, and berate me when she didn’t get the answer she wanted! She kept trying to make me buy this contraption that you basically use to practice pushing…emm no thanks 🤣. I showed it to my mum who has had 6 children naturally and she was horrified. Now maybe it has helped some women! But honestly, the pushing of this stuff is insane. I kept telling her I couldn’t justify spending the money on it, and you know what? I gave birth naturally to my daughter and unsurprisingly my body knew how to push 🤪. Best of luck to you!
I concur concur concur! Yes to all of this. Giving birth is part of nature….. science can intervene if it needs to otherwise you do you when you decide and go with the flow. I’m no earth mother believe me but I managed to see through the ‘extra’ bits needed physically emotionally or otherwise and also the perceived extra bits needed. You just need you. Perhaps it was because I was a geriatric mum ( I bet it was a man who coined that 🤷🏻♀️) who had lived a life and had a life that I was chilled about it all. I had 2x emergency c sections within 15 months and even as I was prepped second time I asked them to just check in case labour had naturally started.
I couldn’t tell you the music that was playing in theatre or the surgeon’s name …..I didn’t want lots of baby clothes as I sad the baby will be in a baby grow or just a nappy for the first six months. Apparently it was terrible to even think this…. it didn’t work out like that!!! I hadn’t planned the first outfit home item either…….
Enjoy what will be in a unique experience. Still winging it … have never had a 12 and 13 at this age and stage before. Periodically my husband and I will look at each other and say… we’ve managed to keep two humans alive!! We’ve done well!!
❤️
I’m not a mom but from reading this post (which I loved btw) I’m sure you’re going to be an amazing one, everyone’s making it up as they along and I’m glad someone is voicing it!
I absolutely AB. SOLUTELY love this post. Im not a mom myself but Ive been helping moms with their kids and house tasks for over two decades. And Ive witnessed enough mom guilt or moms being shamed to choke a horse. I wanna stand in front of moms like a club bouncer saying " you've got an unsolicited opinion? Go thru me. And also bugger off". Every mom Ive worked for has had a different approach, perspective, personality and experience and its been a joy and honor to behold. I moved a few times so Ive had to keep up with some of the families via social media-- some of my earliest gigs are now adults having their own kids!!! And everything I hear from their parents, relatives or even the comments section of Facebook tells me they are happy delightful human beings!! And it happened with each mom bringing her unique self and care to their sphere! Her whole heart!
So yeah-- do your rhythms and choices and flow in the manner that matches your baby and your instincts and your life season. You'll know when you wanna hear outside opinions or advice and when you wanna roll how you wanna roll!! You're speaking about your deep love for him so he's already got THE most important aspect going for him!! You're gonna be great! 👊🏼👊🏼